Feb 03 2010
The First Time Your Son becomes a Father
In 2009 we had the thrill of having two new baby girls welcomed into our family! My oldest daughter Katie’s first born Alani, and my oldest son Brian’s first born Azumi (Amy). It is a wonderful time for a mother to catch those glimpses of your son in Fatherhood. Brian was a young boy when his father and I divorced. You never know what scars are left by this, sometimes it seems subtle, other times it can feel like a steam roller. As a single mom, (all the children lived with me and on my income only) you want to instill the values, morals and life lessons that you know are important to help your kids grow into good people. I wrote about how amazing it was to see my daughter as a mother, and it is just as awesome to see your son as a father! The look on his face, the brow that creases with worry if he can provide enough for his new family, the pride in holding his baby girl. It’s a gift to be an observer of this. My kids all work hard and provide for themselves, but they also don’t make money their highest priority. To me that is refreshing, especailly since nowadays our kdis can make double the salary the parents used to make! Brian talks about how important it is to him to let his wife be home with the baby until she is maybe two years old. He feels bad they have to worry about going back to work too soon. He sees the value and importance of time with the baby and not being able to get that back. He knows the baby won’t remember, but he says he will. Whatever lies ahead for them, their decisions, the search to find the best balance, I am proud to see the role of being a father came so naturally for him. I am most proud to know that his family and their happiness in what is most important. He will be a great role model for his family and his children, something that many parents seem to forget to do in these times….Lead by example